4. Pupil Dilation Can Make Someone Seem More Attractive

So we know that our pupils dilate when we are looking at someone we find attractive. But what’s even more interesting is that a study by Edinburgh University found that pupil size can influence how attractive someone is. But this only applied in a very specific case. They found out that women during their fertile window in their menstrual cycle find men with larger pupils to be more attractive. How about that?

5. Eye Contact Can Make Conversations Feel More Honest

There’s a reason we often hear people say things like “look me in the eye when you say that” or a variation of that phrase. That’s because culturally we associate eye contact with honesty and trust. It’s natural for people to shift their gaze when they’re being dishonest, but, of course that doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to lie while maintaining eye contact. There are definitely people who can lie to your face and feel completely at ease. But generally speaking, in day-to-day life, eye contact during a conversation shows emotional availability, the fact that people are being open and honest.

6. The Best Eye Contact Feels Natural, Not Choreographed

There are a lot of techniques, tips, and tricks on the internet. There are even step-by-step instructions on how to make eye contact in a way to attract someone or to project a certain image. They’ll tell you to look someone in the right eye for 3 seconds, then their mouth for 1 second, then the left eye for 2 seconds, and other nonsense.

And of course they will promise you guaranteed success. But in reality, the best eye contact is the one that comes naturally, not a weird choreographed scenario. Somehow we as a society have managed to discover love by just acting natural for all these years. Let’s stop turning basic human behavior like eye contact into a set of spreadsheets, techniques, and tricks.